Dear Flossy73:

Isn’t it interesting, that when we get what we want, in your case, a loving boyfriend who treats you well, and yet we can’t enjoy it. How to relax those worries, that anxiety so you can enjoy it, that is the question.

When you find yourself worrying, when you notice your doubting, troubling thoughts and the discomfort in thinking them, the physical distress, uptightness, take a moment and relax, taking a deep, slow breath. Do it every time you notice your body getting uptight.

After a few breaths talk some sense to yourself. Comfort yourself. Tell yourself: it is okay. He has been loving toward me. It is okay. So far he has been loving. Worry later, not now. Later.

Postpone your worries. When they insist and persist, postpone them. “Later,” say to yourself. I will worry later. Not now.

anita