Hi anita,

I can understand your point on letting sb have power over you by accepting the blame without first examining and evaluating the situation. There are times however, that I hear how I’ve hurt sb’s feelings by saying or doing sth. At such times I don’t know what to do. If I do say that I’m sorry, as you said, they’re going to take control over me and misuse it. If I don’t, I’ll be accused of not being able to own up to my mistakes.

Also, at least for the few years to come, having no contact with my mom is not possible as we live in the same house. Moving out is still not an option. All I can do is to go from one relative’s home to the other, which causes a great deal of anxiety.

Mary