Hi Mary,

That’s wonderful! I’m excited. You, know, I may just take this challenge along with you, as I suffer from loneliness, alot of my friends have moved out, and they were pretty much “fair weather” friends anyway. I have a new therapist, and am going to talk to her about developing healthier friendships as well. Like you, I want to avoid drama, conflict, cinfusion, walking on eggshells, narcissism, only receiving crumbs in my “friendships”. I also need to work on my need for approval and validation, that I never had as a child. I have to stop worrying about if someone is going to “reject” or “abandon me”. Just because my mother did, I need to let go of this fear.

My other challenge for you, is for you and your Mother to go into therapy together and work on conflict and communication. I know she will resist, but if you want to live in harmony with her or have to, you just have to keep pushing her. No matter how much she resists, tell her, you can’t go on like this, love her, but all this tension is having a negative impact on your health. Don’t give up. I am excited for you, and look forward to future posts.

I have been having problems with my thyroid and have developed thyroid nodules. My physician has me going everywhere to get ultrasounds done and find needle aspirations. If they find anything, then I will be going to a treatment center and more biopsies,  etc. so I may not be able to reply right away. Enjoy your weekend. ☺