Dear Zoe:

You wrote: “, I want a friendship as he is the closest person to me… Why couldn’t he just be honest with me about the split because now I feel so betrayed”-

I suggest you ask him the questions you are wondering about: why is he on a dating site when he told you that he needed to be on his own (not in a relationship), and you can ask him if he was on a dating site while in the relationship with you. You can ask him these questions, and other questions, in a non- confrontational way, so to make your current relationship with him honest.

A necessary element of a friendship, if it is of quality, is honesty, I believe, and that is what I will go for with him, at this point, if I was you. Be honest with him on the matter and see if he reciprocates.

anita