Dear Michael Chan:

You wrote: “I don’t really know how to meet people. I have always been extremely introverted, and terrible at communication”- your education and professional success are not preparing you for a satisfying social life, something else needs to. You considered hobbies- I think that hobbies has been an old, old suggestion going around for decades, about how to meet people. This is not so practical for you, given the nature of your work and your investment in it, that is, you are inclined to think about work as you have for so long, and time is a factor. There needs to be a more effective way to meet people and develop relationships. A way that require less time and no hobbies, is what I am thinking.

And I can’t think of a better way for you to meet a woman for a potential love relationship than online. Many people do not like online dating and I do not recommend that you do the online dating in the ineffective ways that fail so many people. I recommend that you use your highly developed rational thinking and skills you already developed in making the online experience work for you.

If you set a goal, an objective, being clear about your requirements for a woman to be in your life, that will be a start, just like setting an objective in a scientific experiment. Then proceeding. Be goal oriented, instead of the I-will-try-and-see-where-it-takes-me attitude. You don’t let the experience take you, you take it, you form it.

Being selective and leading the process of finding a suitable woman for you is the way for you to go, I am thinking. What are your thoughts?

anita