Dear Zoe:

It doesn’t seem to me likely to work, a friendship with him, because, seems like he moved on from the monogamous relationship with you, but you haven’t. These are the feelings you experience as a result of the breakup and him moving on, that is, him doing the online dating:

“I feel so betrayed….It makes me feel worthless… I just feel so disposable”-

These feelings are not the basis of a workable friendship. They are the basis of a kind of a friendship where you wait for him to return to you, return to a monogamous relationship with you, feeling miserable until he does.

Your thoughts?

anita