Dear Sarah:

I think that too much time has passed, 22 years, and maybe a time limit for an apology has passed a long time ago. Whatever damage your ghosting him has caused him has already happened. An apology will not undo such damage, if it occurred. It is too late.

We as humans have to endure having done wrong to others in the past, wrongs that we cannot undo. I believe that we earn our own self forgiveness for wrongs such as the one you described by learning from it and correcting our present behavior, or extending what we have learned to others. By teaching your children, for example, the importance of treating others fairly, not ghosting others, you are doing the right thing now, earning your forgiveness of past misdeeds.

anita