Dear Kate:

“Hanging on by a thread”, you wrote, and “missing him so so badly that I am doubting everything”-

We are attached to the object of our attachment, in your case, your ex boyfriend,  with many threads, and when separated, you lose those threads that keep you in one place, relatively solid, feeling safe.

So there is that one thread, and you are holding on to it.

When shaken by the separation from the object of our attachment, there is distress. It is not the right time to think, to try to problem-solve, when .. under the influence of distress. I would postpone thinking, if I was you, until you are no longer significantly distressed.

Make a daily routine for yourself, is my suggestion, or stick to the one you have, make changes in it so that the routine works for you. Stick to familiar experiences, calm yourself repeatedly, let time pass, one moment, one day at a time. You will feel solid again, held in place by a second, third and many more threads. Then you can think reasonably, not now.

anita