Hi KaCee,

I bet many women feel that way once their kid/s grow up. We are conditioned to put other people’s needs ahead of our own. Luckily you are young, and have lots of living ahead. It’s time to focus on You now. Become your own best friend first. Try to find out what most interests you; what are you passionate about ? It may take some time. Often things we loved as children are still important as adults. Then go where others have similar interests. Maybe try some adult Ed courses. The Internet is unlimited in resources. Adult friendships are usually based on common interests. Because you are on this site, possibly meditation, or Buddhist groups would appeal to you. One way to overcome shyness is to focus on other people. Treat them how you want to be treated, and you will connect with others. There is nothing wrong with you. You will still be a wife and mother, but one with expanded interests of your own. I wish you well on your self discovery !

Be Well, June