Dear Annie,

You mention that you’re jealous of your boyfriend’s ability to make friends and his talents and work that lead him away from your for hours at a time. It sounds just like you said, your problem and don’t take that the wrong way because I’m here to tell you this is fixable. Very much fixable.

He cares about you, but I feel that deep down, he knows he can’t fix you, because this is within your state of mind. That is why he feels distant and argumentative and callous. It’s hard for him to deal with other people’s issues, because we all have our own issues and I’m sure he does too. But the good thing about this issue is that it can be resolved by changing perspective a little bit.

The main element that is causing issues here is your comparison to persons other than yourself. A combination of fear and shame that you may not be good enough for him, or for other people. The chakras associated with these blockages are the solar plexus and root chakras and I’m mentioning this because you seem to be looking for more ways of dealing with these feelings and perhaps meditation and chakras cleansing could be of interest to you. Just a suggestion, but it has helped me tremendously and it can for you too (I believe).

So just understand that in this situation, you must love yourself for everything you are. You must be proud to be you, whether you are friends with everyone or no one, whether you are shy or not. Find the greatest things about you, and focus on those, not the greatest things about your boyfriend and how YOU aren’t HIM. Be YOU and be happy to be you, because if there’s anything that guys like and give attention to, it’s a girl who feels good in her own skin. I hope this helps you Annie