Hi JH,

1. You are not missing much. Don’t worry about high school and college parties, they are not what they are cracked up to be. I went to a few of my high school ones, but it was mostly all “the popular” girls such as cheerleaders, cliques, gossipers, etc. I felt I never really fit in, I wasn’t exactly very popular in High school, didn’t even go to my High School Prom. I was “a late bloomer” in my late teens, I was very much into horses and showing them and I loved being around animals. For some reason, I was never really interested in dating or being part of a clique in High School. Same thing in College. I had to join a Sorority, and there was “hazing”. Worst experience of my life. I won’t go into detail, but we were all pushed to drink alot, and I ended up with alcohol poisoning. While I lay there pleading to be taken home as I was so sick, I was crawling around and people were pointing at me and walking over me laughing. People don’t care about you. It’s all about being popular, cliques, cheerleaders, if you are “not one of them” you “don’t belong”.

When I turned 19, I became engaged. I was way too young and emotionally immature. He wasn’t. He wanted to settle down, did not go to bars or parties. At the time, I lived in Florida. In a ritzy city, called Sarasota. It’s all about the kind of car you drive, the outfit you wear, etc. There are long lines at prestigious clubs and you have to look a certain way, and if the bouncer liked the way you look, he would let you under the rope. I went to beach parties, hurricane parties, bonfire parties, clubbing and dancing almost every night. My fiance has enough and broke up with me. I was devastated, but it was my fault. Now he is happily married with kids and grandchildren, while I am single and no kids. The reason..partying. I just wanted to date, be with friends, go to Tampa, Orlando, Miami Beach, Seaworld, Disney World, the hottest clubs. Etc, this continued in my thirties. I just wanted to be seen with the best looking men and be at bars. Because of this, I find myself today, wondering why I messed up my life doing that? If I hadn’t, perhaps, I would have been married with children by now. So enjoy, being “tied down” in your twenties, because you could be like me, wake up, be alone and wondering where life went.

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