Dear Mini Ahuja:

You strongly dislike the man you married, the one arranged for you to marry. That doesn’t make you bad.

Problem is you live with your parents who arranged that marriage and now disagree with you ending the marriage. Problem is you live in a society where parents rule their children’s lives, no matter the children are adults and it promotes marriage no-matter-how-unhappy in it.

Lots of people in arranged marriages compensate for their lack of content by having girlfriends/boyfriends on the side. Society turns a blind eye to that, doesn’t it?

You wrote that you are “an overly sensitive person”. That makes living with a man you dislike very difficult. But it also makes living with people who disapprove of you (your parents) very difficult. It is difficult for anyone to live with disapproval from all around. This is why it would be best if you could remove yourself from your parents’ home, from this society you are in and live elsewhere, free.

“Born to be free” you suffer, shackled.

anita