Eliana: how do you discern this “love” that is a relationship and “love” that is just… love but no longer a relationship?

We just spoke after 2 weeks no contact. He wants to meet. I’m nervous. I KNOW I am not ready to get back together. I just cannot get over the hump of where we are: like how do we go from where we are back into a situation where I would be ready to say “Yes, I do. Forever.”. I want to be able to commit to someone like that… But I’m just not sure how to bridge that gap from here to there… (if at all)

Keerthi: thanks for your note as well! I wish you the best of luck in working through this. As long as you still see this person as your “forever” or “possibly that forever” -> what I mean is: the path towards the future isn’t dead, then definitely do continue!

Sam I am so, so, so sorry for your situation. What an unbelievably horrible way to be treated by someone you trust. In many ways: it is crazy to see these are his true colors. I am sending you love to get through this! <3 <3 <3