I sure can identify with you Kindle, I share some of the same worries, it’s not always fun being single.  But at this point in my life I’m trying to learn to be okay with it.  I feel that things happen for reasons we don’t understand, and maybe by taking this time and using it in a positive way, by trying to get to know myself a little better.  I went through a very miserable and heartbreaking divorce as well and like you, I’m very cautious and untrusting now.  Mainly untrusting of my own judgement, but I”m finding as time passes that I am okay being single.  I’ve learned a lot about myself and what makes me tick and am realizing that what I was looking for in my marriage was someone who could make me happy and who I could make happy as well.  But that isn’t how it works, the only person who can make you happy is yourself, happiness doesn’t come from the outside, it comes from inside.  The same with love, it is something that also comes from the inside.  So, I am trying to learn to first love myself and believe that I am worthwhile person, deserving of all the joy there is as much as anyone else.  Maybe someday I will feel confident enough in my own body that I won’t attract people that only prey on my weaknesses, but who will honor me as I do myself.  And of course, if that happens, it will feel right to honor them as well.