Wow. Jay, we really do have so much in common, both in personality and in our relationships. Thank you so much for sitting down and taking the time to reply to my insanely long post. That really made me feel like I am not alone in this and not the only one facing these frustrations. I think everything you’ve said is wonderful and makes so much sense — especially when you talked about the special, shared moments between the two of you. Sometimes it’s so easy to focus on what’s going wrong rather and I often forget about those things that remind me why I fell in love him in the first place. But thank you for reminding me that reflecting on the positive is just as crucial for our relationship.

I’m really glad to hear that you’re going to sit down with your boyfriend and talk with him this week – I really hope it goes well. My boyfriend and I had a LONG talk the other night and did just that. It felt great to finally let out some of my feelings about our relationship and to do so when we were in a calm place and not in an argument. I feel like we were able to sort out a lot of it and I left feeling better than when we entered the conversation. I still believe we have a ways to go but you’re completely right: he’s 100% worth it and I’m not ready to give up just yet. Your response helped a lot with that too 🙂 So, again, thank you thank you thank you for that and I hope that you and your boyfriend are able to have a productive conversation as well.

I don’t know if we can private message on this forum, but if there is a way and you ever want to chat again, please let me know! You sound like an awesome person (law school and 2 jobs?! that’s amazing, girl). Either way, I’m wishing you the very best!