Hello everyone and thank you so much for your responses. I am willing to take responsibility for the fact that we have things we need to work out, including the fact that I need to improve in meeting her emotional needs. This has been the biggest wake up call. I love her and our kids more than anything, but I need to do a better job of showing that. If we survive this, this is what I will commit myself to. I want to spend the rest of my life with her and it is what I promised to do when I married her. I really take courage from all of you and I will hang on and try not to let the situation I’m in wear me down.