Dear Megan Rae:

It reads to me that if you want to continue this relationship you have to find a way to be okay with the trip. It is only 4-6 weeks, not that long, is it? Not like a six month adventure would have been. It doesn’t read to me that his plan to have this trip is a betrayal of your sentiment expressed to him (“I told him not to pursue me until he was really ready to be in this 100%.)

Reads to me that he believes that this trip is necessary for his well-being, his mental well-being, and so, it is necessary in him being “in this 100%”, or close to it. Without well-being, his commitment to you and to your children will be greatly compromised.

anita