Hi Abby,

Unfortunately, some people never get over it. It’s easy to say “Get over it” and the other person may agree 100% and would absolutely love to get over it. But they can’t. Your fella seeing the ex and her new hubby is too much for him. There’s too much hurt.

Heck, I’m still traumatized by a situation that happened ten years ago and I was never married to the people but you can bet I avoid even the possibility of being in the same room as them like the plague. When you see certain people you just want to crawl out of your skin. It’s horrible.

This is human nature.

The best you can do is to gently remind him that one day he will have to go to his daughter’s graduation and possibly her wedding and any future grandbabies’ baptisms. That he WILL see his ex there. And what will he do? How will he handle it? What is his plan?

Then you have to decide what you are willing to deal with. You really don’t have to stay with this man. It’s easier, frankly, to find a young guy with NO “baggage”.

Best,

Inky