Dear Mina:

About the last topic, anytime you’d like, if you’d like to elaborate on that, please do.

Regarding finding comfort in thoughts and imaginings about him and places where you were together: there is nothing wrong with it, of course not. We need comfort. If there was a small item that he gave you, carrying it with you would have been a good idea, so that you can always hold it when you need to, while in class or anywhere else.

You wrote: “Do you agree with her (“He is not rejecting you – he just cannot be in a relationship now.”) or you think that my ex did rejected me because the reasons of the break up was his distress that was caused by me?”

Regarding “He is not rejecting you”- I just looked closer at the definition of “reject”: “to dismiss as inadequate, inappropriate, or not to one’s taste/ dismiss as failing to meet one’s standards”

Considering this definition I am correcting myself: he did not reject you, he ejected you from his life, that is, removed you from his life (broke up with you) so that you are not in his life.

Regarding “he just cannot be in a relationship now”- I agree.

Regarding you causing him distress as the reason he broke up with you, I disagree. His distress was ongoing way before he met you and had nothing to do with you.

anita