Dear Mina:

Regarding most of the second part of your post:

I wrote: “he represents for you”, not that he represents you. He represents self acceptance, that is the state of mind where Mina is accepting Mina.

I didn’t write that you are accepting yourself presently, but that having experienced acceptance by him will hopefully help in the process of you accepting yourself.

I don’t see two Minas, there is just the one who accepts herself sometimes (those are times of calm and hope) and too often rejects herself (those are times of distress and depression).

* Self acceptance needs to be ongoing, not just some times.

Regarding the first part of your post:

“1. My ex boyfriend did or does care about my well being, and it did became one of the reason of the break up BUT the MAIN reason was my ex boyfriend well being, right?”- yes. He cared, from your descriptions and his email. I imagine he still does. The main reason was definitely his distress. He broke up with you so to reduce his personal distress, no doubt in my mind.

“2. He had to ejected me as a girlfriend but he did not rejected me as a person when the break up happened, correct?”- yes, no indication of rejection (now that I am aware of the correct meaning of the word). Eject was the correct word from the start.

Regarding the last part, “‘his legacy’ – can you explain about this? Is it the same concept as me honouring me, in a way – by accepting myself?”-

I used the word legacy, meaning, here,  something received from the past. If his past involvement in your life is part of what leads you to accept yourself, to honor (your word) yourself, then it is a valuable, positive, healthy … wonderful legacy.

anita