Dear Leocube:

You already know rationally that your parents were insensitive and hurtful to you but it didn’t make you feel justified (the verb you used: justified) to cut contact with them. So there is something you need beyond rational understanding so to  believe that you are justified to have no contact with them.

You desire very intensely to have no contact with them, but you feel guilty at the thought of their feelings hurt. You don’t believe  you are justified to hurt their feelings. If you realized how it felt to be hurt by them, then you would feel justified.

The emotional attachment to your parents is that caring you have about their feelings being hurt, correct? You want to no longer care if their feelings are hurt. My solution is: care more about your feelings of having been hurt by them, care more about still suffering the affects of their hurting you, and it will be this suggested caring that will overshadow the caring for their feelings, diminish and minimize that emotional attachment. It will help you to move toward improved mental health.

anita