Hi Tom,

How was she when she came to your house? Was she distant then? Do you think anything happened to make her become distant? I don’t think it would hurt to casually ask her out for coffee and see how she acts. Keep us posted. Also, I think the distance is coming from the “messaging” don’t be her pen-pal. Talk to her on the phone. That’s where the emotional binding happens, the laughter, tone of voice, funny stories, all you can’t get through texting. Personally I find texting in dating relationships silly and teenageish. I won’t go there. Try not to text. If she texts you, tell her you would enjoy having a conversation over the phone. I have seen constant texting ruin many relationships. It’s too impersonal.

• This reply was modified 7 years, 2 months ago by Eliana.