Dear Natasha:

To be on his side, you need not only have the intention to be on his side but to actually behave in practice,  accordance to this intention. When you are on his aunt’s side and his aunt speaks badly about him, then in practice you were not on his side.

You wrote that you spoke to his aunt “because of her role she plays in Carlos life”- but you don’t know what role that was, you don’t know it was a role that was good for Carlos. Learn about that role from Carlos, not from his aunt.

If you want Carlos to believe that you are on his side, don’t tell him with words, show him with your behavior, with thoughtful choices you make.

anita