Dear Natasha:

It is not that “love is not enough”- it is that love is about loving a person not only in the ways you think are right but in the ways that the person needs to be loved.

When you don’t love Carlos in the way that he needs to be loved (to take his side/ to not talk about him with his aunt), it is not that you don’t love him enough, it is that you don’t love him at all.

It is similar to this example: you love Noah and you enjoy carrot cake very much. But Noah hates carrot cake, it makes him feel bad to eat it. But you insist he eats it because you enjoy it, because you feel like eating it. This is not love.

anita