Eliana,

I agree. The issue is that he is so fearful of abandonment (he has childhood issues regarding this) and commitment, intimacy, etc. You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make him drink it! I know I deserve more than to have to convince someone to be with me. But I just feel like we’re so close, why not try?

Anita, you’re so right. I say it’s all or nothing and then I keep faltering on my word. I think it’s because I went so long rejecting his connections for almost a year, that these past few months left me without much will-power. After his most recent visit, I actually had no plans on re-blocking him, but our mutual best friend (my male best friend and his good friend as well) suggested I do it to really give him a message. I kind of regretted it because I had done it before and clearly gone back on my word, so it felt a little hasty and dramatic. But once I did it, I felt even sillier un-doing it. So I just left him blocked.

I guess time will only tell with how this goes.