Anita,

yes, that is the case. Since he’s neglecting my emotional memory, I won’t get anywhere closer to a peacestand in collaboration with him. I have to seek a resolution for the emotional distress this memory is causing me, with the help from a neutral party.

My dad is currently in therapy for dealing with posttraumatic stress… finally. He should have started that decades ago. I don’t really feel an urge to press him into making too much progress at once. He’s an old dog who need to make things his own way. So, as I am dealing with a very acutely present problem related to a memory from the past (having an image of my dad disturbing my sexlife), I’m directing focus on solving that specific problem. My relationship with ol’ pop may find its’ resolutions later, but I don’t count on it as something essential for solving my own problems.