Hi Struggling,

I am sorry to hear you are going through this. You mentioned he is in quite a bit of pain alot, and sometimes that can make people very distant and uncommincatuve. Add that on to his being like that already, and things are probably unfortunately going to get worse. I too, go through alot of pain, and sometimes, I just want everyone to leave me alone and I’m probably not the nicest person to live with, which I why I prefer to be single and live alone. I don’t want someone “held back” by me. Maybe he feels he can not offer you anything right now because of his ongoing pain. But he does not know how to talk to you about it, or express it

When someone is nicer to a pet, than they are to you, it’s time to perhaps move on. It does not sound like he is going to change or become emotionally available for you. You have your needs, and he is not meeting them, actually he is belittling you and being very disrespectful. He does not sound like he is healthy right now to be in any kind of relationship. I’m sure he may have some nice qualities, but it’s not enough. You shouldn’t have to be miserable and treated this way. Tell him “to take a hike” you are tired of his rudeness to you and find someone who will treat you with the love, attention, caring and respect you deserve.