Dear wildoceanflower:

I can imagine it makes you feel good, that she (and her son) moved out. She definitely moved in with him way too soon after meeting him. Moving in with her minor son was an irresponsible act on her part, as a mother. I hope she makes better choices in the future.

For crying out loud, he wants to meet you for coffee, or wanted to right away, figuring I suppose you are eager and desperate. Congratulations (!) for not responding for a few days. I sure hope you continue to respond not eagerly, not desperately and not unwisely.

Your “ability to be innocent and open is completely gone” is a good thing in this situation with this man.

anita