Dear Shy:

You wrote that your family members are terrible people. For any person and for a young woman, only a couple of years out of legal childhood, realizing your family members are terrible people is very hard to accept and adjust to. At one point you loved them and you are probably still emotionally attached to them.

Maybe you wonder if you love your family members, if you should, if it is okay to not love them?

These thoughts, if they are there, can be very distressing. Maybe you have been projecting these thoughts (that you may not be aware of?) into your boyfriend, wondering if you love him?

anita