Dear Tracy:

Looking back, we often see things in a nostalgic way, that is, better than it was. In your case, you see it as perfect, and it couldn’t have been. “a misunderstanding here or there” as rare as it was, is less than perfect. A texting of 24/7 couldn’t have taken place. It must have been less than that. If you hold on to a perfect view of the past, then any imperfection in the present is magnified. I am suggesting that the past wasn’t as great as it seems to you and the present is therefore, not as lacking. A more balanced, realistic view of the past and present will be helpful to you, I believe.

anita