Hi Insparagus,

You were a teenager when all this happened, you were drinking and you made a mistake and ended the relationships. Don’t listen to negativity..or the 9/10 stuff, whatever it may mean. You have changed and grown. You have not cheated since you have been with your husband. I really do not think “once a cheater always a cheater” is true. I know plenty of people who made a mistake in their youth, and now they are in long term marriages and have not cheated since.

Please don’t punish yourself that happened when you were a teenager. Will punishing and analyzing it change anything? Of course not. Don’t go there. Focus on the positive. Your wonderful relationship with your husband, that you have grown and changed. Leave the past where it belongs, in the past.