Hi Ella,

I know exactly how you feel. I have also dated guys that go out often and wouldn’t text me back. Unfortunately, you are not yet 21, so I assume you have no way of going out to a bar with him and his friends or your friends. I agree with what Anita said that you could plan a girls night with your friends and it doesn’t have to involve drinking. That way the focus is back on you and your life instead of his.

I also think you are being a bit hard on yourself saying that your jealousy comes from insecurity or that you need to be a “better girlfriend.” IMO, jealousy comes from insecurity in the relationship, not from who you are as a person.

I really do believe that the right guy will give you a feeling of warmth and confidence no matter what he does. Also.. guys that go out a lot tend to be out looking for something. Girls are the same way.

LV