Dear eitherway:

Her behavior is not promising, not encouraging hopes for an intimate relationship. It may very well have been “a fire burning too bright at the start will burn out quickly” (from your original post). Maybe the fire (at least fire following the two nights together) was mostly in your subjective experience and you assumed, or guessed she was feeling the same.

You wrote: “I guess sometimes you just don’t know what a person is thinking”- when we don’t know, we guess. Too often we guess wrong. No substitute for honest, verbal communication where you don’t have to guess.

anita