Anita,

I think this is close to the conflict I feel. I would like to say that commitment is not the issue for me anymore, that my girlfriend has really helped me mature in this aspect and leave my demons behind. I love her and I honestly want and can see a future with her. So I don’t think it’s about choosing between committed and suffering/not committed and not suffering. I feel uncomfortable about her having been with other people and wonder if I may be making a mistake by not having done so myself because what if this discomfort I feel now turns into something nastier later, so much so that I’m not able to continue with her and just throw away years of hardwork somewhere down the line in our relationship. I want to be able to move past this, and not left wondering whether if it would’ve been easier for me if I’d been with other people as well.