Dear Andy O’Sullivan:

You asked: “why then do I still get this feeling of wanting to be with her, holding her, protecting her and being the rock for her kids..?”-

Maybe you were driven then to save a “damsel in distress” and your current girlfriend, although lovely and amazing, is not a damsel in distress. You recently saw sadness in her eyes and you want to help her. If my guess is correct, and it is a guess, then the motivation to help a damsel in distress draws you to her.

What do you think?

anita