Dear Andy O’Sullivan:

Thank you. Better tell that friend to no longer give you any information about your ex. A friend should respect such assertion.

I understand your pain and concern regarding her children. But since you can not do anything to prevent their mother from hurting them, what can you do. Unfortunately there are a whole lot of children being hurt, feeling pain as I type this. I was one of those children. You probably were one as well. Treat yourself with empathy.

The serenity prayer: … grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

anita