Dear Jeff:

I think that you put your girlfriend on a pedestal not because of the happiness that you experienced in the relationship with her, but the promise of happiness to experience if only she paid more attention to you, if she spent more time with you. When we put a person on a pedestal, it means that we believe that person has the power to benefit us greatly.

To make an unavailable person available to you, to make her available to you, to finally draw her attention, to have her see you, hear you … enough, is that an attractive prospect for you, the thought of it?

anita