Dear Lea:

The fact that “some people are able to just jump in relationships months after” does not mean they are jumping in as a result of having healed, or even taking any steps healing. As a matter of fact, jumping indicates impulsivity, not awareness, not thoughtfulness.

Healing is about making thoughtful choices.

Healing does take a long time. I don’t believe I will personally ever be healed. Healing is not about catching up to the healthy people. I used to think so. But what I found out while in this long process of healing, is that … there are no healthy people for me to catch up to, not that I know.

I also found out, that in my healing, I am learning more and more and there is no ending to learning. There is not going to be a time when I learned it all.

anita