Dear Anonymous:

The key sentence in your share is “despite everything he does to me I take him back,.. and I think it’s because he has a very good gift of making it feel like everything is my fault. He makes me feel like I’m in the wrong , or that I deserved to be treated like that”-

You believe that everything is your fault, that you are in the wrong and therefore, that you deserve to be treated badly. Probably not only in the relationship with him but before you met him, long before.

As long as this is what you believe, it doesn’t matter how much evidence you have that a guy is in the wrong, if he hints that it is your fault, you believe it. When believing something we overlook evidence.

Would you like to share about this belief that you have, when did it take hold in you and how?

anita