But Anita, isn’t it possible that when he said those things to me, he just wasn’t ready for something so serious?  That time and them continuing to be friends brought out those feelings in him?   Perhaps he believes this now?  Perhaps he has done some growing and maturing regarding the pain and anger of his divorce and this is what he believes now.  Is that not how things work?

What should it tell me that I saw him differently than he presented himself?  What information does that give me?