It is possible, thanks Anita. For the past couple weeks we have gone to grief therapy together, but it turned into “couples” therapy from the start. On the first day, he scheduled 2 sessions instead of one… I was shocked.  We had not seen each other for 7 months, and last week was our 2 year separated. He said he loves his new gf, he didn’t look at me and seemed sad to say it. He said that things are different, she makes sense, but he wonders if he will ever love anyone the way he -still- loves me. How he misses me inmensely. Lots of tears, and after each session, he wants to have dinner or drinks. He avoids talking ab his new gf; I try to keep it cool and bring it back to our baby’s loss. However, I catch him stearing at me and crying. He loves his gf, and it seems she is very jealous and our grief therapy is hard on her. Yet this is the first time he has made a point to grieve our loss with me. And I feel sometimes the ex is threatening to the new relationship, but it is not real. We are smoke and mirrors.  I don’t know why he is paying for our therapy, but I feel heard for the first time… even though I know it will end soon.

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