Anita I feel like all couples argue, and everyone in the world can get angry with their partner unless you are a saint! I would not class that as subtle abuse.
I feel like you should be able to express yourself to your partner without them blowing up in your face. It sounds to me you are suggesting not saying anything when you have an issue in case it causes him to become abusive
i do not find your advice very helpful to be honest, that’s my opinion.
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