Hi B,
You mentioned she hasn’t tried to contact you or reach out to you, but it seems to me by your post she did. By offering to buy your Mother a birthday present. That was a very sweet gesture, and something she didn’t have to do, since you had officially broken up. Maybe in a way, she wanted to rekindle things at that time. It’s hard to say. Did you ever talk to her about her wish for your Mom’s birthday present? Perhaps she is hurt, because you did not reply back.
Perhaps send her an e-mail or text..nothing heavy..make it casual..friendship and ask her out for a cup of coffee, and see how she responds. Maybe by this time, things have become clearer for her and her situation. If not, it sounds she has too much going on with her life, with health concerns and can not Give you what you are looking for, unfortunately. Maybe the best she can give you is friendship. You deserve to be with a loving, healthy and supportive relationship with someone who can give emotionally to you, as much as you give to them.
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