Dear Gagan:

Regret as in guilt is useful only when we learn from our experience. The quality psychotherapy I suggested is about such learning. One thing you can learn at this point, without therapy, may be to endure the pain that you feel, to relax into it best you can. You can try to accept reality, not fight it.

If it is love that you value, now that you regret not loving her before, you can love her now. You can love her now in this way: because she has already decided to get married to another man and even shared with you that she likes him-

do not participate any longer in her acts of betrayal of that man. Do not spend time with her alone, anymore. Give her the chance to develop a loving relationship with him by withdrawing.

Can you do that?

anita