Hi Gagan,

Your post about all her qualities puts her on such a high pedestal, that you will constantly find yourself in turmoil. I understand you were best friends, romantic and intimate. However, with over 7 billion people on this planet, you will find another woman. Yes, they won’t be “exactly” like her, but you may, I if you let go of comparisons and high expectations of your “ex” as all perfect, you may find yourself pleasantly surprised if you open your heart and allow different qualities, values. This new person too, might have all the wonderful traits, but you must stop comparing and saying “I will never” or “I “I’m too old” “no one will ever be like her”. If you keep this mindset, then you will be alone always comparing. Let comparisons go, take her off the pedestal. Never say never. You are still very young.

My father got re-married at the age of 74. He met his previous girlfriend at age 55. No such thing as too old. Love never expires, our hearts never expire. Start to change your mindset and think positive things. You *will* meet someone amazing, and special. When you do, don’t compare. Let yourself grieve, go through the emotions. In time, the emotions and thoughts will lessen and not be all consuming. Replace any negative thought of “never” with “I will”. You will then be on your way to a bright future.