Hi Shrebex,

Yep, I’d feel the same way you do! I mean, you make a lot of sense to me. The way I understand it, you acknowledged to him that you mistreated him and that you intend to change your behavior; at that time he expressed that he didn’t want to continue a romantic relationship with you; you maturely accepted his decision, as painful as it was for you; he wished to keep in touch with you but you honestly (and wisely, in my opinion) told him that due to your feelings for him, you’re unable to do that; after 2 weeks you put out a “feeler” email telling him that you were going to work on yourself, but he was sticking to his decision; so you removed him from all your social media in an attempt to move on with your life; 3.5 months later he contacts your friend to ask how you are doing.

Knowing him as well as you do, do you think that he anticipated beforehand that your friend was going to tell you that he asked about you and that he wants to know what your reaction upon hearing that news from her is? Maybe he’s not interested in getting back together but wants to know if you are still pining for him. Or maybe not. It’s hard to know what his motivation could be, but I say bravo to you for making a series of good decisions throughout this breakup process. My two cents: maybe try to do your best to carry on as if he hadn’t contacted your friend, continue your healing and working on yourself.

B