Thanks Radhika 🙂

Anita, oh, alright, I didn’t get it earlier.
So this is one of the many examples. the background is-  He doesn’t talk to me when he’s in office, like never, not even a one second call. I know he gets lunch breaks in office since I have other friends in the same office and the work atmosphere is not really strict (since he’s at a comfortable post) but no matter what happens, he never answers my calls in office. Even when a close relative of mine died and I was all berserk, he didn’t call me once on his own until way after his office got over. Flip side, I used to excuse myself from my office meetings if he ever called, maybe wrong but just that he was always, always my priority. So i learnt my lesson early on that I will not contact him in his office simply because I’ve better odds at dying in the process than him talking to me.
So this one time, we weren’t able to talk properly for many days, he was like always too busy to talk and it was getting difficult. Also, whenever we did talk, he used to talk about how stuck up he is and that i need to be patient. I understood for a few days and said I’m here if he wants to talk but it kept going. He never wanted to talk. I used to keep saying that I’m also busy and I don’t want us to talk for hours but a 5-10 minutes chat in a day is not that difficult, that if I’m laid off whenever there’s pressure of other things, where do I hold a place in his life. But anyhow, that’s how it kept going. He stopped calling, saying I’m busy and stuff and I was the only one calling (in retrospect, I feel I also should have stopped calling, was a lunatic to try talk to someone who wasn’t interested). Finally, really upset I called him one morning, he didn’t answer, he was in office. I had enough that day and I called multiple times, texted that I can’t take it anymore, talk now, he still didn’t answer. At night, too he didn’t call, From a common friend I happened to know he was with them at a party that night (he was stuck up and so not talking to me but partying.) I called him, he answered and said he’s out at the party and will talk later, he didn’t call, I only called late that night and asked him if he has time for everything else, why not two minutes time for the lady who’s been wanting to talk to him since days. by this time, i was so hurt, i began crying. He was like come on, you need to be patient, okay I’m sorry, but obviously I was hurt so i expected him to do more than a sorry, that too when he didn’t even call himself to make things okay between us. But when I was like saying stuff, he cut me midway and was like see I’m really tired from the party, goodnight, and hung up, leaving me crying.

When I stopped calling the next day and the day after, he came with his sorry(s)  and eventually it got over. This same incident is repeated every month almost because he’ll say I’m busy or stuck and then treat me badly for 7-10 days when I’ll see him do everything apart from talking to me. If under tough circumstances I take a backseat, where am i in his life, specially when for me, he’s my all and I ditch other plans when he wants to talk.
Feel free to tell me if I’m unreasonable.