Dear Jen:

It reads to me that you are reasonable. His behavior being different when you break up with him is very telling. Clearly, you need not melt (the verb you used), and stay solid when you do break up with him. You tried to “make him understand” again, and again. Well, he either does not understand or he does not care to understand.

You asked “do I leave?”- I think it is the better choice. Leave and do not melt. If it helps, block him from contacting you, so you are less likely to melt.

Post again anytime.

anita