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Dear Stephanie:
You are welcome. I read your two recent posts. After my first reply to you I googled the term May-December and realized then what you meant by it. It is only in one of your recent posts that you indicated the ages: you were 23 and he was 59 when you met. This is more of a January-December relationship, really (I tend to be quite literal). Although you were of legal age at 23, the age gap is too vast to be congruent, in my mind, with a healthy, loving relationship. Possible, I suppose, but unlikely.
Your description of this January-December relationship as “an intensely spiritual and metaphysical relationship for 4 years” puzzles me in context of it having been a physical relationship (wasn’t it) and in context of the break up and post break up communication.
It may be that the “spiritual and metaphysical” aspect of it has been your subjective experience of it but not his. I wonder if intoxicated by your physical youth, he went along with any such spiritual and metaphysical conversations and activities.
I am also puzzled by the seeming support of this relationship by your parents (“they would invite him over. My parents developed relationships with him”), supporting this Jan-Dec relationship.
In your original post you wrote about your friends and his family:”These people were my only experiences with interpersonal relations in my entire life”- what about your relationships with your parents, aren’t these “interpersonal relations” that you experienced and still do?
If you would like to elaborate on any of my points here, especially the last two paragraphs, I will be very interested to read and reply further.
anita