fbpx
Menu

Reply To: Being Destroyed/ Made Expendable – Coping?

HomeForumsRelationshipsBeing Destroyed/ Made Expendable – Coping?Reply To: Being Destroyed/ Made Expendable – Coping?

#178129
Anonymous
Guest

Dear Stephanie:

You are welcome. I read your two recent posts. After my first reply to you I googled the term May-December and realized then what you meant by it. It is only in one of your recent posts that you indicated the ages: you were 23 and  he was 59 when you met. This is more of a January-December relationship, really (I tend  to  be  quite literal). Although you were  of legal age at 23, the age gap is too vast to be congruent, in my  mind, with a healthy, loving  relationship. Possible, I  suppose, but unlikely.

Your description of  this January-December relationship as “an intensely spiritual and metaphysical relationship for 4 years” puzzles me in context of it having  been a physical relationship (wasn’t it) and in context  of the break up and post break up communication.

It may be that the “spiritual and  metaphysical” aspect of it has  been your subjective experience of  it but not his. I wonder  if intoxicated by your physical youth, he went along with any such spiritual and metaphysical conversations and activities.

I am also puzzled by the seeming support of this relationship by your parents (“they would invite him over. My parents developed relationships with him”), supporting this Jan-Dec relationship.

In your original post you wrote about your friends and his family:”These people were my only experiences with interpersonal relations in my entire life”- what about  your relationships with your parents, aren’t these “interpersonal relations” that  you experienced and still do?

If you would like to elaborate on any of my points  here, especially the last two paragraphs, I will be very interested to read and reply  further.

anita