Dear  Micky:

I  suggest quality psychotherapy/ counseling, so to look at and process your childhood experience with your parents’ marriage, with your mother’s input about relationships. Process how that  experience (an ongoing experience since that dysfunctional marriage still exists), how it felt  then.

Doing so will make it possible for you to separate your present  experience  in your relationship from your past experience with your parents’ relationship. Peeling off the past from the present will make it possible for you to gain clarity and relief from anxiety.

anita

*Dear Olivia: if you start your own thread, copy your above post and  paste  it into your own thread, I  will be  glad  to reply to it there.